Where is the "c"?  Ideas so obvious they hit you like a truck, but you don't need to "c" to get them. When your body (chain) is destroyed , but your will (bar) is fortified through that destruction. For many young  people seeking direction and instruction, on how to be the best version of themselves.  Listen to the stoic philosophers. Take notice of the traits you admire in others,  learn, and emulate those.  Equally in importance is notice, but do not mirror the traits you despise in others. Or traits that are universally held with disdain.